‘The demise of guys: Why Boys Are Struggling and What We Can Do About It’ is a book about the problems the male sex is facing in areas such as social interaction and romantic relationships.
The title should really be ‘The demise of guys: how porn and video game addiction is making men socially isolated, objectifying woman and making them violent’. It’s a long title, but that’s really the entire book summed up. All that’s missing is some statistics and opinion pieces.
I’m not trying to undermine the work that went into the research. In fact, ‘the demise of guys’ is really interesting and rather short. But, most of the statements made are obvious. If a guy spends all his time in his room, playing with his joystick, or playing with his other joystick, of course he’s likely to be socially inept in some form or another. Being bad with woman is an extension of the effects of social isolation and the fact that porn treats woman as mere objects. Teaching men that woman are just thrown aside after achieving gratification. Of course, woman are not objects, and you treat them so, you’ll get nowhere with them.
I don’t buy the idea that videogames make people violence. I accept the fact that videogames can increase the aggressiveness of people. But, they have to already have a predisposition towards violence in the first place. Videogames are not responsible for causing deranged maniacs to go out and shoot people. If that were the case, we’d be living in a Police state by now; due to the fact that every John Doe will be out killing. Besides, not every videogame is violent. You don’t see Italian plumbers go about jumping on turtles and eating magic mushrooms, just because they played Mario. Neither do you see adolescents throwing gulls at pigs down at the local farmers action. The moment these things begin to happen, then I will agree that videogames are a cause of some genuine damage to society. Until then, I will continue to believe that violent people are violent because that is the way they were born and taught.